What can you see in this photo?

More importantly, what is the meaning that you will attach to this?

Last week I was having one of those days. You know those days when you have a moment of question. It doesn't happen often but occassionally you might ask yourself the question "Am I on the right track?" or "Did I do everything I could do?". In that moment of uncertainty, as I closed the door of my car and walked toward the shop I saw a small piece of paper with the word 'Confidence' written on it. The moment I saw this I realised that this was a message to remind myself to feel confident in my decision and all the uncertaintly instantly faded away.

It occurred to me that with 'confidence' in the gutter so to speak, at another time, I might have seen this and given it another meaning. Perhaps one that would have furthered the doubt or indecision. Luckily (or consciously) I chose to make it a reminder and turn my thoughts into a powerful state, one where I was in control.

The truth is that how we choose to feel and what meaning we want to attach to things is always in our control .

One thing you should always consider is how does your meaning make you feel? Are you empowered by the meaning? How can you reframe the picture?

However you define it, Stress is something that can easily raise its head when life becomes busy.  I recently read this post and it really struck a chord with me. Here it is for you to also enjoy:

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience; with a raised glass of water, and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, ‘half empty or half full?’….. she fooled them all… “How heavy is this glass of water?”, she inquired with a smile.

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “and that’s the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won’t be able to carry on.”

“As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden – holding stress longer and better each time practiced. So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night… pick them up tomorrow.

Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, let them down for a moment. Relax, pick them up later after you’ve rested. Life is short. Enjoy it and the now ’supposed’ stress that you’ve conquered!”

I know what you're thinking...you couldn't possibly put it down could you? Your stress is much more complicated than that, right? Just stop for a minute, is that really true?  Really?  Ask yourself will that big thing that you believe requires your stress today be a big problem in 10 mins? 10 days? 10 years?  Now, think about the energy that you could save and put it down for a moment.  You'll be able to handle it better when you pick it up, or you might just find that you don't have to pick it up at all, perhaps you will just carry on with the solution.

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      Are you one of the 70% ?

So it’s the nearly the end of January in 2011, and your probably saying to yourself  “How the time flies”, right? 
So the question I am asking is how many of you set Resolutions this year, and how many of you have already lost your motivation to follow them through?  The truth is that about 70% of people have already neglected their resolutions by 15^th January.

Recently chatting to a friend we got talking about goals for 2011 which then brought us the subject of New Years Resolutions.  My friend explained that he often sets New Years Resolutions every year and every year they were the same.  Every year, things like; exercising more, living more healthily, spending more time with the family, earning more money, working smarter not harder etc. etc. (Sound familiar?)
When I asked my friend about how much success he had had with that, he laughed and said “None”. 

For most people, setting a New Years Resolution is often the first step to not achieving whatever it is that you think you want to achieve. The reason: because if you are procrastinating to get started on that thing that you want to do then you probably don’t really have the motivation to do it, do you?

So listed below are 7 top reasons why most Resolutions don’t work and what you can do to change that;

1. Not being specific enough about your resolutions. Want to lose weight or earn more or start playing golf? That is all well and good but without becoming more specific about it you’re unlikely to see the results you want. How much weight do you want to lose, and by when? How much more do you want to earn, and by when? What does playing golf specifically mean – once a day, once a month or once a year? With each of your resolutions become really specific about what you want and you will be half way to achieving them.
   
   
2. Not really wanting it. For you to succeed it has to be something that you *really* want for yourself. Is the partner putting pressure on you to quit smoking? It isn’t going to be anywhere near as successful as if you want to quit for your own reasons. Does your Mum think you need to do this or that? Probably not going to work. Work out what you really want and go after it with both hands. Motivation is king when pursuing a resolution.
   
   
3. Not considering the wider consequences. Sure, some of your aspirations may sound good on paper, but what are the wider consequences to your life? Is that resolution really such a good idea if it means not seeing your partner or friends because you’re so busy focusing on it? Or is the resolution going to cost so much you won’t be able to reach your financial goals or pay the bills? Make sure you consider the wider impact on your life of each and every resolution you decide to pursue.
   
   
4. Only trying to achieve them. Try is a funny word. If you think about it, you only successfully try if you don’t achieve it! Try scratch your nose… the minute you actually scratch your nose you’ve stopped trying – it is only trying while you don’t achieve it. So remove that word from your resolutions and actually *do* them. Notice the difference it makes.
   
   
5. Not taking action. It doesn’t matter how well you’ve gone so far this is the one that trips the most people up. To achieve a resolution you must, must, must TAKE ACTION. It isn’t magic, what you do is what gets done. So if you are serious about your resolutions then work out what you need to do next and start taking action right now!
   
   
6. Not being held accountable. I’m sure this isn’t you but have you ever noticed how packed gyms are for the first two weeks of January? Lots of people set out wildly towards their resolutions but after a couple of weeks something happens. And when that something happens they don’t get right back to their resolution, they seem to forget about them. This only happens if you’re not being held accountable! Find a friend, a family member or even a Coach to play this important role. A friendly kick in the arse is often what it takes to make the difference between getting to your resolution or not so make sure there are people that are good at friendly arse kicking in your life!
   
   
7. Not seeing things through to the end. I’ll finish writing more about this one in a couple of days...

So, don’t wait to reset your Resolutions for January 2012, it’s not too late to start RIGHT NOW!  Why don’t you concentrate on being one of the 30% of people who will actually put steps in place to get to where they want to be.  Then go one step further and actually be one of the very few who actually get there.  I would be interested to hear your thoughts and goals (if you would like to share them via the comments below) and if you need a bit of assistance to get started, feel free to contact me at chandell@lifepuzzle.com.au  or you can Skype me at chanie_lifepuzzle

    
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When searching for a new job, most people are generally at the end of their tether with their current one.

"My boss is driving me crazy", "I'm not appreciated/recognised in my job", "I asked for more money and they said no"...sound familiar? As a Success and Performance Coach, I've observed many clients shoot out dozens of CV's to any position that looks slightly better than the one they are in, simply because of their ‘emotional reaction’ to their current position. Most of the time, due to the urgency, they neglect two of the most important parts of the application process: Research and the Cover Letter.


In the current market, Dean Salomone, Director at Franchise Careers explains "you need to do your homework about the organisation, culture, growth and marketplace perception if you want to make an impression". Dean also cautions “If you adopt a scattergun approach to finding employment, you will more than likely end up with a similar result.” Dean says, “I look for a candidate who can clearly articulate what major achievements have been realised whilst undertaking their previous roles”.
As a result of receiving hundreds of applications for jobs, Recruiters and HR Managers often need to see something a little different to make them remember you. On average, a maximum of 1-3 mins is spent reading a Cover Letter and only about 5-7 mins to shortlist applicant resumes. Portraying your personality and smarts in your application is important as Dean says, “if you can’t stand out from the crowd from the outset, don’t expect to afterwards”.


If you do your homework and write a knock out cover letter that clearly matches your skills with the ones the employer/recruiter is seeking, you will be in a much better position to get a call back for an interview. Dean advises that a great cover letter “should state clearly the reasons why you are applying for a specific role and you shouldn’t use a generic cover letter”.

So, in order to write a knock out cover letter that will increase the likelihood of a call back you should follow these 5 easy steps:

1. Prepare & Search: Once you have updated and perfected your CV, search for jobs that you are interested in. As best you can, find roles that are seeking the skills and attitude that you already posses. (Make sure that the job/industry is something you are passionate about, as your passion will help your impression at the interview)

2. Identify what they want: When you locate a job that you like, read through the ad carefully and highlight key words that relate directly to your attitude, your skills set and your past experience. Do some research on the company, as this will assist you when personalising your cover letter.

3. Match what they want with YOU: Come back to the words that you have highlighted in the job ad. Reflect on past roles where you might have demonstrated that experience. (Note: you do not necessarily need to have held that job title previously to have demonstrated the skills they are seeking) Start to create small paragraphs outlining these examples and where possible use the keywords that you found in the job ad.

4. Personalise and write your Letter: Don’t use a generic letter. Writing a personalised cover letter for each application can take some time (it will all be worth it when you’re in your perfect new job) however this will demonstrate that you have done your homework and research.

   When writing your cover letter, keep it to 1-2 pages maximum, ideally you would have 3 or 4 paragraphs with a few sentences in each.

   Be specific: Make sure that you outline a few of the following things in your letter:

   (a) what do you know about the company/why do you think you would be a valuable asset?

   (b) what strengths you have demonstrated in the past that would be relevant to them

   (c) what other achievements/affiliations do you have that would support your application i.e. community involvement, sporting groups, local chamber of commerce etc.

   (d) what are some of your character traits (make sure that you are honest here)

   (e) if you don’t have experience in this area why should they consider you?

5. Proof, Edit & Send! There is nothing worse than a brilliant letter with spelling mistakes! Now that you have spent the time and effort to write a great letter, make sure that you spend that extra few minutes to check the grammar and spelling. First impressions can be everything, so you might even ask someone else to read it before you send it, just to be sure you didn’t miss anything.

Stay positive and happy job hunting!

www.franchisecareers.com.au  
Franchise Careers is a specialist Recruitment Agency working with Franchisor and Licensor organisations throughout Australia in helping source Operational and Development Personnel. Other core Services of Franchise Careers are Public Relations, Learning and Development Solutions and Franchise Consulting.

Dean Salomone, Director of Franchise Careers is also the President of the Victorian/Tasmania Chapter of the Franchise Council of Australia (FCA) www.franchise.org.au  

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Chandell Labbozzetta is a Master Practitioner/Coach of NLP, Hypnosis & Time Line Therapy™ to find out more about how Chandell can help you get results go to www.lifepuzzle.com.au